Are women the enemies of feminism's legitimacy in the first world? For example, the attention Chris Brown received from women inviting him to beat them in exchange for a relationship or date.
No, women are not the enemies of feminism’s legitimacy in the first world.
What you described is a perfect example of the toxic effect that the patriarchal system has had on people in this world. This is what comes of the effects of misogyny and sexism. Internalized misogyny is a terrible, disgusting thing.
Over the last 48 hours, there has been a sustained effort to smear Trayvon Martin, the 17-year old African-American who was shot dead by George Zimmerman a month ago. Martin’s mother, Sybrina Fulton, said, “They killed my son, now they’re trying to kill his reputation.”
Thus far these attacks have fallen into two categories: false and irrelevant. Much of this leaked information seems intended to play into stereotypes about young African-American males. Here’s what everyone should know:
1. Prominent conservative websites published fake photos of Martin. Twitchy, a new website run by prominent conservative blogger Michelle Malkin, promoted a photo — purportedly from Martin’s Facebook page — that shows Martin in saggy pants and flipping the bird. The photo, which spread quickly on conservative websites and Twitter, is intended to paint Martin as a thug. As Twitchy later acknowledged, it is not a photo of Trayvon Martin. [Examiner]
2. The Sanford Police selectively leaked irrelevant, negative information about Martin. The authorities told the Orlando Sentinel this morning that Trayvon was suspended from school for ten days “after being found with an empty marijuana baggie.” There is no evidence that Martin was under the influence of drugs at the time of his death, nor would prior possession of marijuana be a reason for killing him. It’s unclear what the relevance of the leak was, other than to smear Martin. [Orlando Sentinel]
3. On Fox News, Geraldo said that Martin was dressed “like a wannabe gangster.” Bill O’Reilly agreed with him. The sole evidence is that Martin was wearing a hoodie. Geraldo added that “everyone that ever stuck up a convenience store” was wearing a hoodie. [ThinkProgress; The Blaze]
4. Without any evidence, prominent right-wing bloggers suggested that Martin was a drug dealer. Right-wing blogger Dan Riehl advances the theory, also advanced in a widely linked peice on a site called Wagist. There does not appear to be any evidence to support this claim whatsoever. [Riehl World View]
5. Without any evidence, a right-wing columnist alleged that Martin assaulted a bus driver. Unlike Zimmerman, Trayvon has no documented history of violence. This allegation continues to be advanced by a blogger on the Examiner even after the real reason was leaked to the police and confirmed by the family. [Miami Herald; Examiner]
6. Zimmerman’s friend says Martin was to blame because he was disrespectful to Zimmerman. Zimmerman’s friend Joe Oliver said that Martin would not have been shot to death if Trayvon had just said “I’m staying with my parents.” Of course, Zimmerman was not a police officer, and Trayvon had no duty to tell him who he was or where he was going. [NBC News]
Abortion is not slavery. Stop desensitizing the struggles of our black American’s ancestors and the hardships people all over the world- even in America- face every day: even in 2012.
Abortion is not like the holocaust. Stop desensitizing the torture, murder and great losses many suffered during World War 2, some still alive to remember, some who have been told stories of their family member’s own pain. Fetuses are not aborted because of religion, race or orientation.
Abortion is not like child soldiers. Stop desensitizing the pain these children go through, having their families murdered, friends murdered and fear of them being murdered all the while being tortured and forced to watch the inhumanity.
Abortion is not just as bad as rape. Stop desensitizing survivors pain after experiencing one of the greatest human rights violations someone can do to another human. The struggle to forget the time(s) someone violated you in one of the sickest ways possible is not just as bad as abortion, because abortion isn’t bad. Rape is.
Abortion is not murder. Stop desensitizing the loss of a loved one people have suffered due to murder. It is not the same as someone being violently and unwillingly taken away from you, while you imagine the pain and fear of the one you love felt in their final minutes.
Abortion is not the death of a child. Stop desensitizing mothers and fathers who have felt the pain of holding their child’s hand while they know that is the last time they will get to. The loss of a child rattles parents to the very core, to the point where their lives will never be the same.
Abortion is abortion: the discontinuation of a pregnancy. Likening it to anything else triggers and hurts those who have experienced or been close to these traumatizing event.
The University of Southern California 7th Annual Second Chance Prom is an opportunity for LGBT and Ally students to attend a prom celebration with the date of their choice regardless of their sexuality or gender identity. We welcome you to take part in an exciting prom event in which guests can enjoy a truly memorable once-in-a-lifetime experience!
“This spectre of rape that cis lesbian “radfems” habitually raise, centered around the supposed inherent threat of the phallus, minimizes the appalling rates of physical and sexual violence committed against trans women, particularly trans women of color and sex workers. It also twists the picture of systemic violence to make it look like trans women are a huge, systemic threat to cis lesbians when in fact trans women as a group face incredible systemic barriers in almost every aspect of life.”—
Yes, this. To claim that trans women benefit from privilege over cis women is to claim that the systemic violence done to women 1) exempts trans women (i.e. is done specifically to cis women), and 2) is done in the name of elevating trans women. Both of those points are non-factual.
This article, unsurprisingly, manages to marginalize autistic people and completely miss what…
This. I’m 17 years old. I’ve been trying on and off to learn how to drive for 2 years now and I still can’t do it. It’s possible I’ll never be able to.
There are simply too many movements to coordinate and too many senses to use at once and I get completely overloaded and exhausted beyond the point of functioning after 15 minutes.
If it’s any comfort, I eventually learned how to drive. I started right before my 15th birthday, and after a combination of relatives and friends trying to teach me along with a really expensive driving course, I did finally manage to mitigate all of the sensory issues (with a pair of good sunglasses) and got my driver’s license three days shy of my 18th birthday. I’ve been driving for almost 13 years now, but it’s still exhausting. I don’t do it unless I have to.
I hate driving. It never fails to give me a headache and incredible anxiety since my brain is just not good at dealing with all of that input/split-second decisions. I can drive short jaunts if it’s someplace I’m familiar with, but I’m terrible at directions and long-distance driving. I just can’t do it.
What sucks is that this has limited my job search to the range where I can comfortably/safely drive or take public transport to. AKA- not that far.
I was 24 and it took me 4 tries before I got my license. So I feel your feels, peeps
Timing, coordination, spatial reasoning, having an understanding of “right” and “left” that isn’t subject to random reversals… so many reasons I don’t drive.
If you think it’s something I’m “shaming” you for, then maybe you feel ashamed of your actions.
If you’re “empowered” by sex, you shouldn’t feel ashamed by anyone’s “shaming”.
Yo. Getting an STD test is just SMART. For everyone.
And no one cares about your opinion on their sex life because I’m sure you don’t matter to them.
If this person isn’t having sex with you, it’s none of your business. You’re slut-shaming because this sexually active woman doesn’t fit into the sexual commodity that you want her to fit in. You assume that all women should practice sex a certain way and if they don’t that makes them bad.
You should probably think long and hard why someone else’s sexual life matters to you so much.
Are you mad that they’re not fucking you? Or getting more action than you?
Because ouch. Figure your own shit out.
3 months tho? There’ve been weekends where I have slept with enough people in 3 days that getting tested would be smart.
Not to excuse slut-shaming for any number of partners… if someone has a long term relationship with someone, and has sex with them during the month they break up, and then has a month of just being with themselves, and then has a month where they’re getting back there, and then starts dating someone and sees them for most of a month before they’ve had sex…
That’s two partners in three months and that’s plenty for an STD test.
The OP apparently thinks there’s some special magic number (probably the number of partners they’ll have in three months +1) that makes someone vulnerable to STDs. Yeah, good luck with that.
Right? That’s what I was thinking, was that a three month span was plenty enough to have had at least 2 partners without deviating from normal dating/sexual behavior standards, and be worth getting tested without anything “slutty” having took place.
OP is probably someone who thinks that STIs happen to other people, other kinds of people, people who do something to deserve it. It’s not a problem for their kind of people, not something they’ll ever have to deal with…
And therefore not something they’ll be diagnosed with in a timely manner.
To everyone reblogging that post about the Sanford PD assuming Trayvon stole the tea and skittles, please know that this was a fake. The quote came from a satire website that wrote far too tasteless article.
People don’t hate fat acceptance because they think it’s unhealthy or any of that concern troll bullshit. They hate fat acceptance because they think that if they aren’t considered MORE beautiful than someone else, they won’t be considered beautiful at all. They hate fat acceptance because they are terrified that it will take away their ability to boost their own self esteem by saying, “at least I’m not fat.”
“Trayvon’s blackness wasn’t something he could hide, so it wouldn’t have mattered whether he’d worn a hoodie or a t-shirt that fateful night. It mattered that he was black, and it mattered that the person who shot him had a vendetta out for black men before Trayvon ever set foot in the neighborhood. It matters that in 2012, there are more black men in prison today than those who were enslaved in 1850. It matters that blacks, in particular black men, are overrepresented in the criminal justice system and underrepresented in colleges. It matters that the black unemployment rate is nearly double that of unemployment for the general population. It matters that blacks are less likely to be screened, diagnosed, and treated for preventable diseases, less likely to own homes, less likely to receive research grants, and more likely to retire in poverty than their white counterparts. It matters that blacks are less likely than whites to abuse drugs, but more likely to be convicted of drug crimes. None of these statistics are due to a genetic predisposition to violence, poor health and underachievement, instead as a direct result of the disenfranchisement of blacks that has occurred in this country for more than 200 years at the hands of slavery, Jim Crow Laws, discrimination, and the institutionalized racism in our schools, banks, businesses, courts, and prisons that has torn apart our families and fractured our community. Just like Trayvon Martin, race mattered for Amadou Diallo, Oscar Grant, Sean Bell, Emmett Till, and hundreds more we will never know the name of who died because of their skin color”—Angela Marie Davis (via zorascreation)
As I’ve moved through my transition, a seemingly innocent phrase that comes with the territory of being trans has followed me around. Something that everyone seems to want to discuss, and expects that I should put a certain amount of weight upon. Something that I felt I should care much more about, but was always confused as to why I was, in fact, rather uncomfortable with.
The idea of passing.
Passing is thrown around a lot in the trans* community, and it’s not hard to see why. For many of us, having a target visual ideal to shoot for and obtaining social anonymity is both essential for our own body comfort and often our safety. So as I moved through the months in Hormone Replacement Therapy and entered my androgynous phase I steeled myself towards the knowledge that I probably wouldn’t blend in and be seen by strangers as “acceptably” female all the time, and comforted myself with the knowledge that eventually, I would pass. And things would be better.
But I couldn’t deny that something about that irked me.
Coming to the place I am now and talking about my life as a trans woman with many different types of people over this past year has made me realize the social subtleties and patterns that make up a good chunk of people’s perceptions of what passing is, and more importantly - the misconceptions.
For a long time I tried to hold up passing as something pretty important. However what I have come to realize about what was bothering me this whole time, is that people seem to think that I care about passing, or at least that I SHOULD care about passing for all the wrong reasons.
Firstly, there is an idea that my desire to inhabit a certain visual aesthetic is rooted in my desire to encapsulate or “obtain” an idea of femininity. As in, I am attempting to mask an inherit “lack” of being female by adorning and modifying myself to fit into a nice, easy-to-digest socially acceptable image.
Secondly, the idea that my transition’s end objective is to appear cisgender. Which, to me carries the connotation that appearing gender-variant is, for some reason unsavory and that I, of course, would never want to appear as anything other than binary.
And finally the idea that the fact that I once looked different and lived a different life means unequivocally and plainly that I was once a man and am now a woman. The idea that I come to a point in my life of being a man and only after a certain amount of body modification can I - and more importantly SHOULD I - be able to call myself truly and “fully” a woman.
I’d like to make it clear right now exactly how much that’s fucking bullshit.
Because when I look back on myself and see the person I am now, I realize I had put so much stress and weight on the idea of pressuring myself into a narrow idea and hoping that people would accept it, I completely missed the point of why the hell I even transitioned in the first place:
I just wanted to look like myself.
When I looked at my reflection in the mirror a year ago, I didn’t see the person who I knew I had been hiding all along, and I knew I needed to change that. But the thing is, the reasons why I needed to change weren’t because of some desperate struggle to grasp some semblance of something I felt I was lacking, they were to shed the lie that I had held dear to cover up who I truly am. To find out who exactly that person buttoned up and trapped deep inside was.
So when I got all this shit about “passing as a woman” and how apparently important it should be to me, I was left feeling puzzled and soured at my expected readiness to perform into an idea of what others thought was acceptable.
Because it was never my intention to pass as acceptable.
It was never my intention to pass as an image of femininity.
“If you’re not disabled now, then one day you might be. When that happens you’ll want to go to the pub or get on public transport. You’ll want to be seen as a person, not as a disability. Purely out of selfishness you should be fighting for disabled rights. If you don’t, you are prejudiced against your future self. And your future self hates you and thinks you’re a dick.”—
• Being a broke college student does not give you the right to not tip. If you’re going out to eat, the tip should be included in what you expect to pay. Don’t have money to tip? You don’t have money to eat out. • That’s a seriously entitled attitude to have, for real. I’m supposed to give you the same service I give a table that tips 20%? What a joke! NO. I will come to recognize you and I will despise you. I love my job, but it’s still about making money. • I am also a broke college student and I depend on those tips to feed myself, sometimes $1 per table at a time. Have you ever considered this? • If everyone who never tips stayed home, the restaurant wouldn’t hurt much. They add up to maybe 3 tables a day and it’s not like they’re big spenders anyway. So stop insisting that businesses would go under if your cheap ass stayed home. • And what about the kitchen? They get half of my tips, and the restaurant I work at isn’t unique in this. If you’re curious, ask your server about how their employer has them do their tips. If you’d prefer, avoid places that don’t tip out their kitchen staff.
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oddityball asked: How do you feel that white people should participate in protests organized by PoCs? Or should they participate at all? Like, for instance, should a white person join in things like the Hoodie March by wearing a hoodie, or should they do so in other ways?
In general, I don’t have a problem with white people attending protests organized by PoCs as long as they don’t overstep their boundaries. There were plenty of white people who were wearing hoodies at the the MillionHoodieMarch (NYC) and I didn’t see problem with it. What I did have a problem with, however, was the usage of “I am Trayvon Martin” by white people.
Because white people are not Trayvon. They aren’t even similar to Trayvon. They are protected by the system that persecutes people like Trayvon and I. The phrase becomes useless and loses its symbolism when co-opted by them.
There are other ways to participate.
I was so excited when I saw a white man — actually, I’m gonna post up his photo
The man’s sign says “They never stop and frisk old white guys like me”. This is in reference to the NYPD’s Stop and Frisk policy, a disgusting policy that discriminates heavily against non-whites.
I also saw a white woman dressed in all black, standing on the corner with a sign similar to that.
They used their privilege. I think that’s a much better way to participate than to just wear a hoodie for solidarity. A white person should use their privilege to point out the flaws in the system that protects them, privilege that white people have come to view as every day life.
The Weinstein Company announced plans to release Lee Hirsch’s documentary Bully unrated, rather than with the Motion Picture Association of America’s original R rating, and Hirsch toldThe Hollywood Reporter that it is “the right thing to do.”
The recent controversy that developed when the MPAA gave the film an R rating had kids, celebrities and politicians all rallying to reduce the rating to PG-13. The film, about the bullying epidemic in the American school system, received the R rating for using the word “fuck” six times, two more times than allowed for PG-13 rated films.
A recent appeal hearing to reduce the R rating with the Classification and Ratings Administration filed by Harvey Weinstein and Lee Hirsch was unsuccessful, as they lost by just one vote. The Classification and Ratings Administration has set guidelines about language in film, while sex and violence are more subjective.
“The small amount of language in the film that’s responsible for the R rating is there because it’s real,” Hirsch said to THR. “It’s what the children who are victims of bullying face on most days. All of our supporters see that, and we’re grateful for the support we’ve received across the board. I know the kids will come, so it’s up to the theaters to let them in.”
“I apologize to anyone offended by what one prominent black conservative called my ‘very practical and potentially life-saving campaign urging black and Hispanic parents not to let their children go around wearing hoodies’”—