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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 26 years old, a feminist, liberal, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Major Depressive Disorder.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
Catching Elephant is a theme by Andy Taylor
Yes, false rape accusations happen. Run the protocol anyway. I’ve heard that perhaps the military has the highest number of ‘em. True or not, RUN THE PROTOCOL ANYWAY. Because in 15 years of investigating rape accusations, I can count those that panned out as false on one hand. Meanwhile, the one time I almost skipped the protocol, the one time I almost didn’t believe a petty officer, because I was naive as an investigator and a young woman, because her commanding officer described her as “a party girl, always late, always out drinking, don’t bother with this one”, she turned out to be the victim of one of the most brutal assaults I’ve ever investigated. She shouldn’t have still been -alive-, let alone up and making the accusation. So let me repeat: five false accounts in fifteen years. And one time I almost failed a woman ‘cause of the bullshit way it’s normal to talk about us. Take your shipmates’ word, and then run the protocol. Every. Single. Time.
- JAG lawyer, speaking to my husband’s plant during Sexual Assault Prevention Month. (via circusbones)
Absolutely. A person of any gender can rape a person of any gender. Including the same gender.
He is trying to explain that not getting laid (incel means involuntary celibate) is a violation of his civil rights and a grossly overlooked injustice. He is completely serious. This is his blog.
what a fucking creepy fucker
Oh my fucking GOD. What an entitled little douche.
“BEING WITHOUT A RELATIONSHIP AND SEX AGAINST YOUR WILL FOR OVER 6 MONTHS” cry me a river
what is that civil rights analogy even
Dear guys who don’t understand why women are often cagey around you:
These men walk among you and are indistinguishable from you until it’s too late.
From his About Me: “I want to share the idea that governments have to help people get partners.”
Suddenly, in a totally unrelated coincident, I have a brilliant and terrifying idea for a new dystopian fiction setting.
OH MY GOD. I cannot with Nice Guys™ like this. FUCK.
I’ll try to contain my rage with a nice numbered list of why he is SO fucking wrong. Ahem.
- Women are often single too, even when they don’t want to be. Nobody is entitled to a relationship with anyone. Period.
- Comparing women to restaurants is disgusting and objectifying. Stop.
- Comparing the civil rights movement to you not getting laid is also disgusting. Stop that too.
- You may not like being single, but that is not, in any way shape or form, oppression.
- You are probably single “against your will” because you view women as restaurants that have an obligation to service you.
- If we really wanted to help people who felt depressed because they were single, a big step would be teaching them that they don’t need a relationship to be validated and happy, NOT trying to match people up with tax money (honestly, I read it twice, and I still don’t know exactly what it is that you’re proposing).
- You clearly have a warped view of women, the civil rights movement, and oppression and you are awful. STAHP.
As was mentioned before, things like this are a big reason women have trouble trusting men. The predators, the Nice Guys™, the creeps, the guys who feel entitled to women, they’re all out there, masquerading as decent dudes.
Yeah, again. I remain I have justified reason to feel be cautious about most men I come across.
This is just fucking disgusting.
lol why did I even stop and read this
from this creep’s blog: (an assumption about him, followed by his response of the “truth”)
You wanted to rape your mother!
Actually, all I did was beg her for sex a couple of times I was very, very frustrated and sex starved. I did not want to have sex with her any other time than those few times nor do I want to now.
“Actually, all I did was beg her for sex a couple of times”
“Actually, ALL I DID was beg her for sex a couple times”
“ALL I DID WAS BEG HER FOR SEX”
more fuckery: after being accused of blackmailing a girl for sex, he says: “In fact, what happened is that this woman offered sex than changed her mind when I said that it will be weird having sex using condoms because the previous girl I had sex with was on the pill. Not that I wouldn’t have sex with her with a condom, like they claim, only that it will be kinda weird in the start. She immediately said she changed her mind. I then tried to persuade her for 3 hours (which is normal male behavior, not coercion) and when she eventually agreed to do it again she changed her mind once more. You know why? Because I asked her to write “brb” during our Facebook chats. She just said she’s not gonna do it and that I should forget about her.”
Wait I’m sorry, did you just say trying to persuade someone to have sex with you when they have already denied you FOR THREE HOURS is NOT coercion?? Just normal male behavior?? Just because you think coercion is normal male behavior, does not mean it’s normal to try to persuade someone to have sex with you AT ALL, let alone FOR HOURS. Jesus fucking Christ! Consent cannot be given through coercion. Intense persuasion - not listening to no - pestering - is coercion.
And guess what else?! GIRLS ARE ALLOWED TO CHANGE THEIR MINDS. Everyone is allowed to change their minds! Have you never changed your mind about anything? Just because someone says they’re gonna sleep with you, does not mean that they now owe you sex. Even if they promised. No one owes anyone else sex, and everyone deserves to have their choices respected.
If you had actually read more of that post (or maybe you did but it didn’t fit with your bullshit agenda) you’d know that she didn’t change her mind at all. She was never interested in having sex with me at all until I put the picture up. She would offer sex and withdraw the offer in order to torture me. You really think she changed her mind because of silly reasons like “I will use condoms but it might feel weird with them” or ” Could you please write brb when you leave for over 15 minutes”? God no. It was all planned to fuck me up.This is something she admitted herself later. So, fuck you and fuck that crazy bitch. I should have fucked her once and then punched her in the face after that. Would have saved me from a lot of anguish during our cloud coockoo relationship she wanted after we had sex.
My post further on says: “What these feminists, manginas and other scum don’t tell you is that our initial deal of one hour of sex with no cuddling or kissing turned into 5 hours with kissing and cuddling, that she was the one who broke the “no contact” part of the deal less than 24 hours later and that she was the one who wanted a relationship with me. That’s how “abused”, “coerced” and “blackmailed” she felt after. They will also not tell you that she admitted that her changes of mind were done just to get a kick out of torturing me but that she liked the sex when it happened”
Look, sorry to break it to you, but “she didn’t change her mind, she NEVER wanted to have sex with me!” makes you seem like more of a rapist, not less. Also, you resisting using condoms and policing her language (even if it is online) are not “petty” reasons, they’re perfectly valid. You extorting her into sex by posting her picture and threatening to dox is her is RAPE.
Also, it doesn’t matter how she reacted later. If you forced her into sex, that’s rape. The fact that you’re so proud of this incident is disgusting.
Also, you pressured your mom to have sex with you and when she didn’t, you beat her and your father up? That kind of mentality probably is what keeps you “incel” or whatever you want to call it.ps bolding your shit indiscriminately doesn’t make you correct.
Cunt, I write my posts in bold so they could be easier to read, especially in a crappy site like Tumblr, not because it means I’m right. Your Atheist Cult uses that kind of logic. I, on the other hand, am sane.
My atheist cult? Very interesting, given that atheism is not a religion nor am I an atheist. If you think that calling me a cunt will make your argument more persuasive or more correct (or prove your sanity), you are very mistaken.
I’m serious. This man terrifies me. And sends me a message saying I should be cautious around men because I’m such an insane cunt.
Can I also just point out how fucking HILARIOUS (not) it is that women wanting health insurance covering their birth control are vilified as sluts and people condemn it as ‘I’m not paying for them to have sex’ DESPITE THE FACT, THE VERY FACT, that birth control is used to help manage other things.
And then what happens? You get some fucking self entitled potential
(I mean, let’s be honest he’d be fucking any girl he could pressure and manipulate and rigorously belittle into saying yes) rapist demanding there be some governement funded program that goes toward men getting laid.‘involuntary celibacy’. This is the only kind of fucked up bullshit men would pull.
So much rage right now. So much rage. I would fucking choke him out if I could I don’t even fucking care. So much fucking rage right now. 3 fucking hours. 3 hours!? SHE SAID FUCKING NO.
And you begged your own mother for sex?! You’re so entitled to fucking sex you beg your own mother?!
BRB WHILE I never go outside and speak to another man because how fucking terrifying is it that someone like you can be anyone. You can be my co-worker. You can be my bus driver, my neighbor, my mom’s friend’s son.
Like holy fucking shit.
I just want to post this so people know to stay the fuck away from this guy. Jesus fucking christ.
“Repeat Rape: How do they get away with it?”, Part 1 of 2. (link to Part 2)
Sources:
- College Men: Repeat Rape and Multiple Offending Among Undetected Rapists,Lisak and Miller, 2002 [PDF, 12 pages]
- Navy Men: Lisak and Miller’s results were essentially duplicated in an even larger study (2,925 men): Reports of Rape Reperpetration by Newly Enlisted Male Navy Personnel, McWhorter, 2009 [PDF, 16 pages]
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Because it’s victim blaming bullshit?
Legally Bitchtastic: The Bullshit in "Teaching Boys Not To Rape"
I always hear feminists complaining about how sexist it is for people to impose that women should be taught not to get raped as opposed to men being taught not to rape. This doesn’t make any sense at all. Humans have a deep set sense of morals that tells them things like murder and rape are wrong. And that’s why it isn’t culturally acceptable to rape someone. This is why if a case for rape can be proven (with some sort of evidence mind you) than the person is undeniably guilty.
But to even attempt teaching men not to rape is silly. It’s stupid. It’s pointless. Should we also teach people not to kill each other? A murderer is going to kill someone whether you tell them to or not.
I realize there are gray areas. But the best way to get rid of these situations is to not put yourself in them. I’m not going to say you have to dress conservatively, not show your boobs, or not go clubbing and get wasted by yourself, or not to walk down dark alleys at night. Just realize the risks your taking. Carry pepper spray or something I don’t care. It’s extremely easier and much more logical for women to prevent themselves from being raped than it is for men to be taught not to rape.
Regardless of whether or not YOU see the logic in it, we know FOR A FACT, that rape awareness and “teach men not to rape” campaigns DO WORK.
At this point, there is relatively little evaluation research conducted with men’s programs. Yet review of this limited body of work suggests three conclusions that we will critically examine.
(1) Some programs have demonstrated success in changing men’s beliefs and attitudes regarding rape (for reviews, see Bachar & Koss, 2001; Brecklin & Forde, 2001; Breitenbecher, 2000; Flores & Hartlaub, 1998; Gidycz et al., 2002; Morrison et al., 2004). This issue is discussed in greater detail in a later section.
(2) Some programs have also reduced men’s self-reported likelihood to rape (for reviews, see Berkowitz, 2002, 2004; Breitenbecher, 2000; Gidycz et al., 2002). This is an important variable to study because it “”is associated with rape supportive attitudes, sexual arousal in response to rape depictions, aggression toward female confederates in a laboratory situation, and a history of self-reported sexually aggressive behavior”” (Breitenbecher, 2000, p. 28).
(3) There is evidence to suggest that some prevention programs might reduce men’s actual sexual aggression(Foshee et al., 2004; Foubert, Newberry, & Tatum, 2007; Linz, Fuson, & Donnerstein, 1990). Such findings are certainly promising, and this remains one of the most important research directions in this field. However, there are unique issues that must be considered when reviewing this body of research.
FACTS.
“Humans have a deep set sense of morals that tells them things like murder and rape are wrong.” LOL NO people voluntarily join the army all the time despite knowing that, in many cases, the whole point of their being there is to kill other people. Joining the army is only seen as heroic in our cultural context because we have made it out to be that way and we don’t care that they’re killing people from countries we’re at war with, while if they murdered someone back here it would be seen as terrible. It’s nice to think that human beings are ~inherently moral~ but that just isn’t the case: people learn from their culture what is and isn’t acceptable and usually act accordingly. People (mostly men!) continue to rape because in our society they can usually do so without consequence.
When most people think of rapists, they think of scary strangers lurking in alleys. And while of course those rapists exist, 70% of rape victims knew their attacker.
A big reason for that is because people, including rapists, think that it’s not rape unless you are chasing her down an alley or slipping something into her drink. Consider Steubenville, when the rapists attacked a girl who was falling down drunk. How many times have you seen a movie or TV show in which a man likes to prey on drunk girls. I think the show that is one of the worst offenders of this is How I Met Your Mother, where even the “good” character of Marshall once said that while its wrong to prey on a girl whose stinking drunk, you’re an idiot if you don’t take a little bit of an advantage from the situation.
Or consider all the times you’ll hear that a woman is just being coy, playing hard to get or just needs the right type of persuasion. All of these imply that saying no is just a prelude to saying yes. And so men are more likely to keep pushing, no matter how firm a woman stands. I recently had to endure weeks of my ex trying to persuade me to get back together, no matter how many times I said no and explained why not. In the end, the thing that finally made him stop was me losing my temper and screaming at him in a rant that included me calling him an idiot and bad in bed. And that didn’t even make him stop because he understood that I truly did not want to get back together. He just stopped because he now thinks I’m a crazy bitch.
How many times in movies and TV have you seen a guy continue to persist in trying to woo a girl until finally he makes a big enough gesture that her icy exterior melts and she realizes that she really does love him? Even when the woman is clearly uncomfortable? I think the best example I can think of right now is Crazy Stupid Love in which a lovesick eight grader embarrasses his seventeen year old crush in front of her whole school and is still rewarded by her eventually giving him naked pictures of herself, presumably to tide him over until he’s eighteen and she can fuck him without feeling like a pedophile.
TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE, RACISM
The asshole holding the sign that says You Deserve Rape is Dean Saxton, he attends the University of Arizona and goes by the name of “Brother Dean Samuel” That’s also him with the racist ass “Ghettopoly”
Per the comment on Buzzfeed
“I can’t wait till he graduates college and a future employer finds all this crap. No one’s going to want to take on this sexual harassment/racist liability. I say we KEEP publishing this stuff, KEEP his name out there, and ensure he dies in a gutter with only his disgusting sign to keep him warm.”
What better place to put it than tumblr?
Please reblog
Maybe we can make this the new “Mitt Romney sucks pass it on”
Why yes. Yes we can OP.
I’m ashamed that this piece of shit lives in the same town as me.
WELL THE SUNGLASSES WON’T SAVE YOUR RACIST, RAPIST ASS NOW, MOTHERFUCKER.
(Source: spectorette)
