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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 26 years old, a feminist, liberal, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Major Depressive Disorder.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
U.S. pilot makes a mistake and drops a bomb on an Afghan wedding, killing 30. This happened today as well.
it sucks that people don’t care about those countries. They’re at least as important as all the others. I feel so sorry for those people who got killed. It’s sad that people get killed when others are giving eachother “I do” and make them believe in true love. Bombs suck…
repeat after me
- you can be heterophobic
- you can be cisphobic
- you can be sexist towards men
- you can be racist towards white people
- i have listened to one of my best friends cry his eyes out over skype because he feels like a horrible person simply because he is a straight, white, cis male
- tumblr if you make a grown man cry because of something he can not control you know you’re fucking doing something wrong
No. No. No.
There is no systemized hate of heterosexual people. There is no systemized hate of cisgender people. There is no systemized hate of men, nor is there systemized racism against white people.
You are wrong and you have no concept of how this society works at all.
Your friend was hurt and I understand how this must make you feel, but let me make myself clear: you have NO RIGHT to equate the suffering of minority groups with the hurt the members of privileged groups like your friend receive. The hurt that your friend has experienced is real but the reality is he is not likely to be targeted for being straight, white, and cis, and even less likely to be bullied, beaten, or killed for it.
Your friend has cried once over his treatment at the hands of other people. A lot of the members of minority groups cry every single fucking day because of people like him, and it is disgraceful that you should try to downplay this by spouting your unoriginal reverse oppression bullshit.
Your friend now feels horrible for being something he can’t help being? Good. Maybe now he has an extremely small inkling of what it’s like to be queer, or female, or of colour. Maybe his feelings of shame will bolster him to do something good for the people our institutions are condemning, instead of turning around like you and trying to “even the playing field”.
The systematic oppression of minorities is not a Tumblr-exclusive phenomenon, and neither is your bass-ackwards thinking. It happens everywhere, every day, all the time. But if your biggest concern is that some folks on a blogging website made your buddy cry? Then you have some serious fucking rethinking to do.
I’ve been reading some old commentary on Hugo Schwyzer due to this recent Tumblr post defending him, which was written by a woman who identifies him as a father figure. And I came across a blog post that explains why Schwyzer’s fatherliness is just more evidence why he can’t be trusted. He’s so sketchy that even other white male feminists are creeped the fuck out:
Here’s how Schwyzer described his relationship to his students not long ago:
Go ahead, call me paternalistic. I’ll wear that title with pride, thank you. I see my students not merely as independent, autonomous agents whom I need to empower, but as vulnerable young people whom I — and others around me — need to protect. And I still have the nerve to call myself a feminist.
This notion that feminism calls him to protect the weak — to save them from themselves, to guide them to the right path — recurs again and again in his writing. As the co-organizer of the LA Slutwalk earlier this year, he referred to his role as “Herding sluts. In the best and most responsible way.” His students say he’s an electrifying lecturer, but complain that he severely restricts class discussion. And he frequently conceptualizes moral behavior as a matter of denial and restriction. (He has, for instance, described feminism as a “cold pool” in which “none of us can fully immerse ourselves forever.”)
I don’t have any reason to believe that Hugo Schwyzer is likely to attempt another murder anytime soon. But the man who described his girlfriend as fragile and broken and in need of his sheltering strength as he plotted her death has not gone entirely away. The paternalistic impulse to save that young woman from herself — an impulse that came to him with “incredible clarity” then, one which he remembers “perfectly” today — is still in him, still driving him. It’s an impulse he’s redirected, but it remains unexamined, unchecked, and dangerous. (It particularly inflects and infects his writing about sexuality, about youth, and about people of color.)
There’s nothing pro-women, feminist, or new about being a man who wants to rescue, protect, teach and otherwise be the master to women, particularly young and vulnerable women (like the one who wrote that Tumblr post). That’s pretty much the essence of patriarchy.
I’m so glad you & I both are on this anti-Schwyzer-stan tip right now. I was just about to make a video talumbout this white feminist fuckery that keeps his name in circulation…
Just reblogging because I love anyone and anything that highlights what a douchefuck Hugo Schwyzer is.