[My main Tumblr can be found over at myasphyxiatedmind]
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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 27 years old, a feminist, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (FAAB trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, Dermatophagia, and Dermatillomania.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
It’s easy to say “fuck cultural identities, we’re all human” when your culture is not the one being exploited, marginalized and oppressed. It’s easy to say “fuck borders” when your country is the one who puts up the borders. And it is really fucking easy to say “we all bleed red” when it’s not bodies of your people riddled with bullets because Western capitalism has a price.
U.S. pilot makes a mistake and drops a bomb on an Afghan wedding, killing 30. This happened today as well.
it sucks that people don’t care about those countries. They’re at least as important as all the others. I feel so sorry for those people who got killed. It’s sad that people get killed when others are giving eachother “I do” and make them believe in true love. Bombs suck…
repeat after me
- you can be heterophobic
- you can be cisphobic
- you can be sexist towards men
- you can be racist towards white people
- i have listened to one of my best friends cry his eyes out over skype because he feels like a horrible person simply because he is a straight, white, cis male
- tumblr if you make a grown man cry because of something he can not control you know you’re fucking doing something wrong
No. No. No.
There is no systemized hate of heterosexual people. There is no systemized hate of cisgender people. There is no systemized hate of men, nor is there systemized racism against white people.
You are wrong and you have no concept of how this society works at all.
Your friend was hurt and I understand how this must make you feel, but let me make myself clear: you have NO RIGHT to equate the suffering of minority groups with the hurt the members of privileged groups like your friend receive. The hurt that your friend has experienced is real but the reality is he is not likely to be targeted for being straight, white, and cis, and even less likely to be bullied, beaten, or killed for it.
Your friend has cried once over his treatment at the hands of other people. A lot of the members of minority groups cry every single fucking day because of people like him, and it is disgraceful that you should try to downplay this by spouting your unoriginal reverse oppression bullshit.
Your friend now feels horrible for being something he can’t help being? Good. Maybe now he has an extremely small inkling of what it’s like to be queer, or female, or of colour. Maybe his feelings of shame will bolster him to do something good for the people our institutions are condemning, instead of turning around like you and trying to “even the playing field”.
The systematic oppression of minorities is not a Tumblr-exclusive phenomenon, and neither is your bass-ackwards thinking. It happens everywhere, every day, all the time. But if your biggest concern is that some folks on a blogging website made your buddy cry? Then you have some serious fucking rethinking to do.