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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 27 years old, a feminist, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (FAAB trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, Dermatophagia, and Dermatillomania.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
I once had a guy that was mutually friends with my friends walk up, sling his arm around me, and say in front of everyone ‘You know, I’d like to date you. You know why? I’ve always wondered what it’s like to date an ugly fat chick.’ To this day the worst part of that memory is that I immediately chastised myself for not reacting with a girlish laugh right away, as though it was my responsibility to make everyone feel comfortable with his insult.
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Oh look, time for another round of “Shit I won’t post on FYFP because it’s a positivity space but oh I have got to vent about this shit SOMEWHERE”:
Anon asked: I love my curvy body and my softness, but if I can’t move around as easily, my body is a prison. a lot of these fat positive people seem to think it’s ok to be so fat that you can no longer run, so fat that you can’t fit in a regular bus or plane seat, so fat that it effects your lifespan and so fat that they probably have trouble reaching their asses to clean properly.. but it’s their choice right? is that the bottom line?
Okay, first of all, fuck you.
Second of all, fuck you.
There is never
let me repeat that
any occasion upon which you are entitled to hold an opinion about it being “okay to be fat” or not.
Not when it comes to “levels” of fatness. Not when it comes to someone’s exact poundage. Not when it comes to their physical ability or how it’s restricted, by their fatness or anything else. Not when it comes to public transit seats (ps there are a lot of not fat people who don’t fit in transit seats either, esp airplanes, like very tall people, leggy people - like me - people with wide hips or shoulders - also me even when i was at my smallest size 10 - etc. so this is not exactly fat people’s fault, those seats are way too fucking small for a wide variety of people anyway). Not when it comes to health problems or lifespan issues - which, that is a completely bullshit claim anyway, go fucking read some actual science on that shit and learn the facts like how the mere presence of fat is not actually an indicator of early death, you witless wonder.
And oh my GOD if you are really that fixated on some stranger’s asscrack, which is hidden away under clothing and underpants just like yours is and therefore shouldn’t be at all relevant to your life or beliefs unless you are going to be sexually involved with them or something, you are the disgusting one here.
But honestly, just the fact that you thought assuming that larger fat people can’t keep up a state of personal hygiene, and had to put that in some seriously fucking crude terms, was a way to get across any point other than “LOOK AT ME I AM AN ENORMOUS DICKHEAD WATCH AS I PUBLICLY SHIT MY PANTS AND THEN WIPE MY FACE WITH IT”, tells me a LOT about you, and not a single bit of it is flattering.
Lastly, one’s body size is actually usually less of a choice than popular junkscience would have you believe. We do not have any way to reduce a person’s weight by any significant amount and have it remain lowered over a long period of time. 95% or more of all weight-loss efforts - including bariatric surgeries - result in a person who weighs the same or slightly MORE as when they started, within about 5 years time at most; most of the time it’s within 1-3 years.
And yet. You know something?
but it’s their choice right? is that the bottom line?
Yeah. Yeah, actually, it is their choice, and that is the bottom line. Their bodies are their own, to do with as they please, whether what they please lines up with what you think they should do or how you think they should feel or not. Just like if someone wants to participate in efforts toward intentional weight-loss, despite my very strong feelings on the inherently detrimental nature of diets and weight-loss, I’m not gonna come shit in their inbox about it, because it’s their body, and if what they want is to go on a diet, fine, that’s on them. They go on their diet, I continue to eat whatever the fuck I want to whenever the fuck I want to, and the world spins on.
So even IF your bullshit “points” about the “negative effects” of being “too fat” were anything more than particularly odious verbal diarrhea, YES, IT WOULD STILL BE THEIR CHOICE TO LIVE A LIFE FILLED WITH THOSE EFFECTS IF THAT’S WHAT THEY’RE HAPPY WITH.
Honestly, you’re pulling a bog standard “well *my* level of fat is acceptable and even sexy, but anything over my arbitrary standard is Too Fat(tm) and subject to all of the horrible things society says about *all* fat people.” Basically, you’re totally fine with fat-shaming and fat-hating bullshit, as long as you get to be a sooper speshul exception to it.
And fuck you.
What kinda shit?
Idk, I barely skimmed it. Something about everyone already being equal and fat people begin gross or something (talk about contradicting yourself). It was basically the equivalent of someone taking two dumps in my Ask box, so I just cleared that shit out and moved on.
did you message her or comment on her picture saying that? asked by muuzz
70milesaway: message (it literally looked like a whale im sorry but im serious, she was in a bath n all)
My ask response:
Holy shit, fat people take baths? YOU DON’T SAY. Funny how you fat shaming fuckers will stereotype fat people as smelly and unclean but god forbid you see a picture of a fat person bathing themselves.