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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 26 years old, a feminist, liberal, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Major Depressive Disorder.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
Catching Elephant is a theme by Andy Taylor
Pro choice people who whine about people who have had several abortions or use abortion as birth control piss me off more than lifers.
They seriously do. At least lifers admit they don’t want me to have a choice. Choicers let me have a choice, but as long as it’s within what they’ve defined as acceptable. Outside of that, well, I’m just an irresponsible, childish [ableist slur], ain’t I?
When people say “using abortion as birth control” — however inaccurate because an abortion IS birth control — I assume they mean “someone who gets pregnant and gets abortions all the time instead of getting on the pill”. Do they not realize that these people they’re attempting to judge are kind of urban legends? Do they not realize how EXPENSIVE abortions are? When you’re shelling out potentially $300-$1000 for the procedure — even without the social stigma, the harassment by “well-meaning” protesters, even fear — believe me, it’s not something you would want to do even once.
I actually would use abortions as my primary birth control. I’m the urban legend. I’ve only had one abortion but I generally don’t use birth control at all. I won’t use anything hormonal because I don’t want estrogen and whatnot in my body for trans reasons. And I’m really not a big fan of condoms because I have a latex allergy and they’re pretty overpriced.
I live in England. Abortions are free, there’s no protesters (at least not at the clinic I used for my abortion) and I actually really enjoyed the day I had my abortion. The clinic was friendly, the drugs they gave me were awesome, and I got to have a fun day in London.
So, yes, I’m the urban legend. I enjoyed my abortion, and until I can afford to get sterilized (very unlikely), I’m probably going to use abortion as birth control.
(bolded bits) Aarrgh, thiiiisssss. Once I said that I didn’t want estrogen birth control because I’m trans and I got fucking jumped (on a forum) for it. Yes, trans folk who are okay with estrogen birth control, that’s nice for you, it would make my dysphoria worse. The progesterone only ones tend to increase depression and have a list of other issues- because that is what I need. More depression. It got better as time went on, but not great, and if I didn’t get so fucking depressed on my period it wouldn’t have been worth it, and I think it made it harder to do sexy stuff. I know a few trans folk who were specifically told not to use it because it’d make their depression unmanageable. I don’t have a latex allergy, but my partner does so it’s not like that’s an option. I also can’t help but wonder if condoms could cause dysphoria for trans folk who have a penis, which is not something I want for my partner.
Birth control is really not designed for all trans folk.
All of this^. Honestly, the only birth control I’m comfortable with (for me personally) is sterilization, and that’s just not an option here in the States due to paternalistic gate-keepers and the exorbitant cost even if I managed to find a doctor. And unlike with NHS (in Cydne’s case), abortions are expensive and highly restricted here. So even though I would have zero qualms about getting one (or more) that isn’t something that’s affordable. So what options is someone like me left with? Yeah…I get to never have sex, have sex and be terrified of getting pregnant which would mentally destroy me (not to mention bankrupt me), or wait until I’m like 40 to be sterilized. #nonbinaryreprojusticeproblems :/
(Source: campdracula5eva)
