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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 27 years old, a feminist, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (FAAB trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, Dermatophagia, and Dermatillomania.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
Find a way of communication that works for you partner(s). If this is sign language, writing, typing, texting, or another method, work with them to learn it well. It’s important to be able to communicate to be sure everything is consenting and everyone is happy.
Don’t shame your partner(s) for their difficulty with talking. Learn about why they can’t talk. Help them in any way you can.
Invest in safe signals!
Ask them what makes them feel comfortable. Do they like it when you talk to them a lot? Do they prefer you are quiet? Is there anything you can do to make them feel more comfortable?
Learn their body language. If you aren’t sure what something they do means, ask! If they can make noises or sounds, listen closely and ask questions to be sure you can understand what the different ones mean. Pay attention and LISTEN. Just because they can’t speak verbally, doesn’t mean they don’t speak at all.
”One day we must ask the question, ‘Why are there forty million poor people in America?’ And when you begin to ask that question, you are raising questions about the economic system, about a broader distribution of wealth. When you ask that question, you begin to question the capitalistic economy. And I’m simply saying that more and more, we’ve got to begin to ask questions about the whole society. We are called upon to help the discouraged beggars in life’s market place. But one day we must come to see that an edifice which produces beggars needs restructuring. It means that questions must be raised. You see, my friends, when you deal with this, you begin to ask the question, ‘Who owns the oil?’ You begin to ask the question, ‘Who owns the iron ore?’ You begin to ask the question, ‘Why is it that people have to pay water bills in a world that is two thirds water?’ These are questions that must be asked.”
-Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.