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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 27 years old, a feminist, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (FAAB trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, Dermatophagia, and Dermatillomania.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
It’s enraging when I think of how capriciously Americans shrug their shoulders and turn the other cheek when considering the value of Black life in this country. Institutional and interpersonal racism has left Black America in a very precarious place; just leaving our homes puts us at risk for being assassinated by any self-righteous, gun-yielding neighborhood watchman who deems us suspicious.
This way of thinking is an example of a broader societal philosophy that literally begins at conception of a Black life. Black mothers, often considered hypersexual in nature, are frequently treated with little to no dignity by doctors who dismiss their pregnancies as accidental or inconsequential.
With a maternal and fetal mortality rate higher than any other race (often caused by stress brought on by racial burdens), Black mothers often experience traumatic birthing experiences that include forced cesareans, trivializing attitudes by medical professionals, and contemptuous care that has led to death or serious injury. If they survive this, Black children are given the least resources, have the least access to healthcare, endure some the most toxic and contaminated environments, and deal with structural and interpersonal racism throughout adolescence and into adulthood, where they risk the chance of being shot to death by people like George Zimmerman.
It is disheartening how people have desensitized themselves to the plight of communities just because they don’t look like their own or how the lives of Black children are so undervalued, not because of something they’ve done but simply–just because. I can’t reconcile how some people have positioned themselves to make ethical decisions about who is and who isn’t deserving of safety, security, and justice and how those decisions magnify and shift culture, leaving entire communities on the fringes and moving targets for the Zimmermans of the world.
I’m digging Shanelle Matthews’ post on Trayvon Martin’s death in terms of the existential upset that’s fueling the activism like the Million Hoodies March as well as understanding his death through a reproductive-justice framework. (via racialicious)
They seriously do. At least lifers admit they don’t want me to have a choice. Choicers let me have a choice, but as long as it’s within what they’ve defined as acceptable. Outside of that, well, I’m just an irresponsible, childish [ableist slur], ain’t I?
When people say “using abortion as birth control” — however inaccurate because an abortion IS birth control — I assume they mean “someone who gets pregnant and gets abortions all the time instead of getting on the pill”. Do they not realize that these people they’re attempting to judge are kind of urban legends? Do they not realize how EXPENSIVE abortions are? When you’re shelling out potentially $300-$1000 for the procedure — even without the social stigma, the harassment by “well-meaning” protesters, even fear — believe me, it’s not something you would want to do even once.
I actually would use abortions as my primary birth control. I’m the urban legend. I’ve only had one abortion but I generally don’t use birth control at all. I won’t use anything hormonal because I don’t want estrogen and whatnot in my body for trans reasons. And I’m really not a big fan of condoms because I have a latex allergy and they’re pretty overpriced.
I live in England. Abortions are free, there’s no protesters (at least not at the clinic I used for my abortion) and I actually really enjoyed the day I had my abortion. The clinic was friendly, the drugs they gave me were awesome, and I got to have a fun day in London.
So, yes, I’m the urban legend. I enjoyed my abortion, and until I can afford to get sterilized (very unlikely), I’m probably going to use abortion as birth control.
(bolded bits) Aarrgh, thiiiisssss. Once I said that I didn’t want estrogen birth control because I’m trans and I got fucking jumped (on a forum) for it. Yes, trans folk who are okay with estrogen birth control, that’s nice for you, it would make my dysphoria worse. The progesterone only ones tend to increase depression and have a list of other issues- because that is what I need. More depression. It got better as time went on, but not great, and if I didn’t get so fucking depressed on my period it wouldn’t have been worth it, and I think it made it harder to do sexy stuff. I know a few trans folk who were specifically told not to use it because it’d make their depression unmanageable. I don’t have a latex allergy, but my partner does so it’s not like that’s an option. I also can’t help but wonder if condoms could cause dysphoria for trans folk who have a penis, which is not something I want for my partner.
Birth control is really not designed for all trans folk.
All of this^. Honestly, the only birth control I’m comfortable with (for me personally) is sterilization, and that’s just not an option here in the States due to paternalistic gate-keepers and the exorbitant cost even if I managed to find a doctor. And unlike with NHS (in Cydne’s case), abortions are expensive and highly restricted here. So even though I would have zero qualms about getting one (or more) that isn’t something that’s affordable. So what options is someone like me left with? Yeah…I get to never have sex, have sex and be terrified of getting pregnant which would mentally destroy me (not to mention bankrupt me), or wait until I’m like 40 to be sterilized. #nonbinaryreprojusticeproblems :/