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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 26 years old, a feminist, liberal, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Major Depressive Disorder.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
Ew. Now that you mention it, I remember that ‘I’m going to go home and masturbate to you’ shit he pulled on that Christian girl who was against masturbation too. That shit is unacceptable.
It’s a shame he can say such intelligent things and then turn around and do/say such disgusting things.
Thanks for pointing that out.
Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry that happened to you. This is a really good point that hasn’t been brought up yet.
At one point in our search for help for me, my mom and I started visiting a psychologist that worked with hypnotism (basically just a really relaxed state). It didn’t last very long after I noticed that he was staring at my breasts the entire time. I mean boring fucking holes into them.
This is a very good point. People in the medical community will cover each other’s asses and they have more power as a whole than an individual does.
- From “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (Sorry I’m on a rape tangent today… Been thinking a lot about the importance of informed consent in ALL ways.)
For many who don’t realize the constant threat of being female. 1 in 3 women will be assaulted in her life, and you feel like your guard can’t be let down.
I was heading to our local M&S in the middle of a study session that had left me tired and in a piss-poor mood. It was cold, so I had my hood pulled down deep in my face. Suddenly a guy approaches me. I tried to shake him off, indicating I was in a hurry. He followed me. This dialogue happened.
G: ‘Sorry, just a question!’
L: ‘I’m in a hurry…’
G: ‘Just one!’ [follows]
G: ‘I just saw you walking down here and I just wanted to let you know - you’re really pretty!’
L: ‘Thank you.’
L [smiles and makes to leave]
G: ‘Are you a Cambridge student?’
L: ‘… I think we’ve met before.’
G: ‘Oh? Take down your hood!’
L: [reluctantly pulls up the hood a little bit] ‘I’m in a hurry, so-‘
G: ‘Take it down all the way! I’m Jacob!’ [extends hand]
G: ‘Wow, you’re eyes shine in the sun!’
L: ‘Yeah, I’m leaving now.’
EDITED 2nd TIME: Danyphantzome has deleted my second mediafire and second/sockpuppet photobucket account. He is also currently stalking me incessantly according to statcounter. Because of this, ALL links are to be kept private. Please contact me for his photos, resume, etc.
EDITED: Since danyphantomzone has contacted mediafire and suspended my account, I am changing all my mediafire and photobucket stuff. All links should work.
This masterpost is to serve as an information source AND identification source for individuals. Should any of you like to contact me to better know what happened, please feel free (off anon) and all communication will be kept confidential.
If you’d like to see evidence of their harassment, simply look under the tag danyphantomzone, or on my own blog.
Here is a link to a previous masterpost to show evidence.
Here is a link to his OK Cupid Profile. [only accessible to members]
Here is his IP address: Ball State University (188.8.131.52)
Here is his resume, which was previously located at a public data sever he controlled at Ball State University where he attends. It was easily Googable, and was the first result when searching his name and location. I have saved a copysince he deleted it. Please contact me to obtain a copy since he has contacted mediafire to remove my account.
I have pictures of him to identify him, please contact me for photos.
Daniel Ballow is located in Muncie, Indiana and currently attends Ball State University. He follows numerous women of color, POCs, and queer blogs. He is a self proclaimed nerd and may attend conventions, movie/video game releases, etc.
According to his resume his emails are firstname.lastname@example.org and email@example.com , block them and any profiles using those emails, report them. Daniel Ballow has proven to consistently refuse to leave women and others alone when asked to after making sexual advances, or has triggered them. In one post, he actually admits to planning on continuing to trigger me (the “less emotionally stable” person) to get what he wants. Screencaps is dissected with red marker over specific paragraph, these screencaps are available upon contacting me.
This post is open to be expanded should anyone want to take screencaps of posts should he delete, and any sharing will be done so anonymously. Please reblog widely.
Re-reblogging with edited information. He is currently stalking me. He has claimed I am mentally unstable/unfit, and that he is “sorry” but apparently still continuing this harassment even after stating I don’t have to forgive him.
Many people mistake sexual harassment for innocent flirting. Here’s some steps to let you know if this is an appropriate time to “flirt”:
- Are you in a car? No don’t do it
- Are you across the street from them and don’t feel like crossing the street? No.
- Basically if you’re yelling to do it, don’t do it.
- Do they look really busy with something and is it something you can help them with? approach with caution
- Do they look really busy with something and it’s not something you can help them with? Don’t bother them
- When you talk to them are they avoiding eye contact, pointedly looking for an escape route, replying in short replies, and using body language like leaning away or crossing the arms? Go away.
- Are they in an enclosed space where the literally cannot get away from you? Don’t do it.
- If they are involved in any kind of customer service, where they are required to be nice to you, don’t do it.
- Never touch them unless you know them well and you ask first.
- If they say they need to leave or you need to leave let them do it and don’t complain.
- All it should take is one no. Don’t keep asking to do something. Just take the first no and go. Even if it’s a subtle “not right now” or anything like that leave it be.
If you see someone who is displaying the body language like number 6, go help them out by distracting the person trying to talk to them. They will probably be super grateful.
Have more rules to add to the list? Let me know!