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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 26 years old, a feminist, liberal, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Major Depressive Disorder.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
Catching Elephant is a theme by Andy Taylor
This is definitely inspired by the Cosplay ≠ Consent campaign (or more exactly, CONsent) and by an older but new to me story on The Mary Sue about a Black Cat cosplayer who had enough of this crap and told them so. It also started as just stick figures to fit today’s April Drawing Challenge, but got more defined as I kept at it. And there’s also the difference between “sexy” and “sexualisation” at play here, from today’s post in Less Tits n’ Ass. It’s a melting pot of many things, and I’m happy with how it turned out, although my original mind image definitely had a Kate Beaton+Adventure Time style, which I could not emulate without references.
Keeping the characters as simplified as possible means I can get away with gender-identifying the actors; I deliberately made the last character androgynous so there’s no real assignment of meaning other than standing up to the douchebags no matter who you are.
Hope you like!
So Awesome! I’m actually working on some art for this too! ARTISTS UNITE FOR THE CAUSE!
Ew. Now that you mention it, I remember that ‘I’m going to go home and masturbate to you’ shit he pulled on that Christian girl who was against masturbation too. That shit is unacceptable.
It’s a shame he can say such intelligent things and then turn around and do/say such disgusting things.
Thanks for pointing that out.
Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry that happened to you. This is a really good point that hasn’t been brought up yet.
At one point in our search for help for me, my mom and I started visiting a psychologist that worked with hypnotism (basically just a really relaxed state). It didn’t last very long after I noticed that he was staring at my breasts the entire time. I mean boring fucking holes into them.
This is a very good point. People in the medical community will cover each other’s asses and they have more power as a whole than an individual does.
Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.
So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.
For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.
- From “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (Sorry I’m on a rape tangent today… Been thinking a lot about the importance of informed consent in ALL ways.)
For many who don’t realize the constant threat of being female. 1 in 3 women will be assaulted in her life, and you feel like your guard can’t be let down.
(via sktagg23)
(Source: suzaneraslan)
Casual Sexism and Vulnerability
An anecdote:
I was heading to our local M&S in the middle of a study session that had left me tired and in a piss-poor mood. It was cold, so I had my hood pulled down deep in my face. Suddenly a guy approaches me. I tried to shake him off, indicating I was in a hurry. He followed me. This dialogue happened.
G: ‘Sorry, just a question!’
L: ‘I’m in a hurry…’
G: ‘Just one!’ [follows]
L: ‘Yeah?’
G: ‘I just saw you walking down here and I just wanted to let you know - you’re really pretty!’
L: ‘Thank you.’
G: ‘Really.’
L [smiles and makes to leave]
G: ‘Are you a Cambridge student?’
L: ‘… I think we’ve met before.’
G: ‘Oh? Take down your hood!’
L: [reluctantly pulls up the hood a little bit] ‘I’m in a hurry, so-‘
G: ‘Take it down all the way! I’m Jacob!’ [extends hand]
L: ‘Hi…’
G: ‘Wow, you’re eyes shine in the sun!’
L: ‘Yeah, I’m leaving now.’
~*UPDATED*~Warning: user danyphantomzone [now daniphantomgone] is a sexual harasser
EDITED 2nd TIME: Danyphantzome has deleted my second mediafire and second/sockpuppet photobucket account. He is also currently stalking me incessantly according to statcounter. Because of this, ALL links are to be kept private. Please contact me for his photos, resume, etc.
EDITED: Since danyphantomzone has contacted mediafire and suspended my account, I am changing all my mediafire and photobucket stuff. All links should work.
This masterpost is to serve as an information source AND identification source for individuals. Should any of you like to contact me to better know what happened, please feel free (off anon) and all communication will be kept confidential.
If you’d like to see evidence of their harassment, simply look under the tag danyphantomzone, or on my own blog.
Here is a link to a previous masterpost to show evidence.
Here is a link to his OK Cupid Profile. [only accessible to members]
Here is his IP address: Ball State University (147.226.193.92)
Here is his resume, which was previously located at a public data sever he controlled at Ball State University where he attends. It was easily Googable, and was the first result when searching his name and location. I have saved a copysince he deleted it. Please contact me to obtain a copy since he has contacted mediafire to remove my account.
I have pictures of him to identify him, please contact me for photos.
Daniel Ballow is located in Muncie, Indiana and currently attends Ball State University. He follows numerous women of color, POCs, and queer blogs. He is a self proclaimed nerd and may attend conventions, movie/video game releases, etc.
According to his resume his emails are e156211@yahoo.com and djballow@bsu.edu , block them and any profiles using those emails, report them. Daniel Ballow has proven to consistently refuse to leave women and others alone when asked to after making sexual advances, or has triggered them. In one post, he actually admits to planning on continuing to trigger me (the “less emotionally stable” person) to get what he wants. Screencaps is dissected with red marker over specific paragraph, these screencaps are available upon contacting me.
This post is open to be expanded should anyone want to take screencaps of posts should he delete, and any sharing will be done so anonymously. Please reblog widely.
Re-reblogging with edited information. He is currently stalking me. He has claimed I am mentally unstable/unfit, and that he is “sorry” but apparently still continuing this harassment even after stating I don’t have to forgive him.
(Source: dansphalluspalace)
How To Tell if You’re Sexually Harassing Someone
Many people mistake sexual harassment for innocent flirting. Here’s some steps to let you know if this is an appropriate time to “flirt”:
- Are you in a car? No don’t do it
- Are you across the street from them and don’t feel like crossing the street? No.
- Basically if you’re yelling to do it, don’t do it.
- Do they look really busy with something and is it something you can help them with? approach with caution
- Do they look really busy with something and it’s not something you can help them with? Don’t bother them
- When you talk to them are they avoiding eye contact, pointedly looking for an escape route, replying in short replies, and using body language like leaning away or crossing the arms? Go away.
- Are they in an enclosed space where the literally cannot get away from you? Don’t do it.
- If they are involved in any kind of customer service, where they are required to be nice to you, don’t do it.
- Never touch them unless you know them well and you ask first.
- If they say they need to leave or you need to leave let them do it and don’t complain.
- All it should take is one no. Don’t keep asking to do something. Just take the first no and go. Even if it’s a subtle “not right now” or anything like that leave it be.
If you see someone who is displaying the body language like number 6, go help them out by distracting the person trying to talk to them. They will probably be super grateful.
Have more rules to add to the list? Let me know!
(Source: kendrawcandraw)
This is male privilege…and disturbing as hell.
(Source: all-about-male-privilege)
OMFG
Just saying, if a guy did this to a chick, instead of the other way around, a lot less people would think it’s cool and funny and a lot more people would find it appalling.
I think that’s the point. IMO, anyway. Without the treatment of women as public property not being regarded as strange, or women being sexualized no matter what they are doing, wearing and where they are, this wouldn’t be so shocking/funny. I think someone once said that it is the shock that makes something funny. This certainly does that. She is making a playful and out of context reenactment of normal pornified treatment of women and reversing it. Her smug unconcerned demeanor could reflect how men generally behave as if their treatment of women as sex objects is normal and not a cause for reproach, while his expression as he backs away is amusing to women, because clearly this should be the normal reaction when a person is treated this way, in any context.
