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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 27 years old, a feminist, liberal, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Major Depressive Disorder.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
Catching Elephant is a theme by Andy Taylor
Thin privilege is being so terrified, at a size 14/16, of being fat-shamed by your GP that you delay going to see him for a symptom that could indicate a serious illness OR be caused by your weight gain OR mean nothing.
I ended up going to see my new GP after months and he found out it was nothing serious. He made no comment about my weight whatsoever. I’ve had more than one bad experience with the medical establishment in the past, but I’ll learn to trust him more.
This is Thin Privilege: Thin privilege is never having to deal with shit like this while...
Thin privilege is never having to deal with shit like this while you’re at work:
(I am working the reference desk. I have a great rapport with our patrons, and am often complimented for my positive attitude.)
Me: “This is the reference desk. How can I help you?”
Patron: “Can you tell me why fat people are so defensive?”
Me: “I’m sorry?”
Patron: “Can you tell me why fat people are so defensive?”
Me: “I can find you some materials on obesity, or prejudice faced by obese people perhaps—”
Patron: “I just want to know why fat people are always so angry.”
Me: “I’m sorry, ma’am; I don’t think I can answer your question.”
Patron: “See! You’re angry!”
Me: “I’m sorry; do I know you?”
Patron: “No, but I’ve been in your library before, and I recognize your voice. You’re fat. Why are you so angry?”
Me: “Ma’am, I consider your question offensive and bigoted. Would you ask that same question about a particular ethnic group?”
Patron: “You’re a f******* fat b****!”
(I’d like to say this conversation didn’t shake me, but I felt ashamed of my appearance for the rest of the day.)
From Not Always Right
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Attention all LGBTQ+ writers: submissions are now being accepted for an upcoming anthology of poems, short stories, and essays written about the queer/trans experience. The anthology will be published in e-book form and will be an exhaustive collection of modern creative writing representing the lives of LGBTQ people. We like to think of it as a written time capsule. Each submission should be less than 3,000 words, and each individual may submit up to 5 pieces of original writing. Questions and submissions can be emailed to LGBTQwriting@gmail.com and submissions will be accepted on a rolling basis. The earlier you submit your piece, the more likely it is for it to be published. All proceeds from the published e-book will benefit gender confirming surgeries for transgender individuals.
In response to the anon who doesn’t get it:
Christianity is the largest world religion. The major requirement for being a member of group is that you choose to. You believe what the Book tells you, and you make the decision to be a part of it. Another huge part of it is spreading the word and trying to save (convert) people.
I don’t know where you’re from, so maybe you never got this lesson, but when the white folks colonized the Americas there was a systematic effort to completely destroy the native peoples, their languages, their religions, and their cultures. This effort to white-wash native peoples included taking children away from their families, forced “reeducation,” and genocide.
When someone desecrates a cross, or any symbol of christianity, it may be offensive to people who are part of that religion, because that item has personal significance.
When a non-native (generally white, though people of other ethnicities are not exempt) person appropriates an item of cultural and historical significance from the native population it is an act of violence. That person, whether or not they are cognizant of the significance of their actions, is rubbing salt in the wounds of the oppressed. They are ignoring the historical and social context in which they and the oppressed person/people exist and saying “my desire to look ‘cool’ is more important than your right to feelings of safety.” It is not appreciating the culture. It is insulting and dehumanizing.
i seriously have no words for this stupidity. i dont even know
This is Thin Privilege: Thin privilege is people commenting things such as “You’re so...
Thin privilege is people commenting things such as “You’re so beautiful, I wish I looked like you, you’re stunning, you’re such a beautiful person, I love your fashion I love your style” etc. on your Instagram pictures.
My friend is very skinny and constantly posts pictures on Instagram , sometimes up to 20 a day. She has a lot of followers who post comments on her pictures and fawn all over her even though they don’t know her. They just assume she’s a wonderful and caring person even though they don’t know what she’s really like, just because she’s pretty and thin. It’s so hurtful when she tells me that she has more followers than me. When I see all the comments on her pictures and I get none I know it’s because I’m fat and my fashion isn’t like hers because I can’t find clothes that look like that on me.
Thin privilege is people telling you every day how perfect you are even if you don’t need to hear it because you already know it. I know not all thin people think that but my friend does. Sorry if this isn’t making sense but English isn’t my first language.
http://s-sickk.tumblr.com/post/37458895636/i-honestly-hate-it-when-people-say-that-skinny-is
sorry the screenshot wasn’t clear.
I do not have a tumblr, thus the submission. I recently came across this post through a friend, and i was just SO enraged. I anon ed her telling her that it is body shaming and it isn’t right. She completely ignored this and ranted on about how she was far from body policing. I was reluctant to submit at first but then I realized that many other women can learn from this.
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Hard to read, but I get the gist of it. How… can you not realize that’s body shaming?
A 2009 article from the bilerico project about Transphobia in the Gay and Lesbian communities
for the anon who wanted clarification. :>
Okay, this sums up what I mean better than my fumbling.
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Okay, yeah. So, like, the person who wrote this is obviously asking you to look past all of these things and see who they are as a person. Which is cool. And I think that when people are looking for someone in a relationship, who they are as a person always plays the biggest part? Or it should, anyway. If that’s your point, I agree. Basing shit solely on gender or something like that would likely not result in a very good relationship.
