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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 27 years old, a feminist, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (FAAB trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, Dermatophagia, and Dermatillomania.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
if you accidentally misgender someone, or say the wrong name, just correct yourself in the same manner as if you called a cis person by the wrong name or pronouns, which is not unknown because we are all capable of verbal slips.
sometimes i accidentally call people my dog’s name, or i call them “mom”
the right way to do this is “[wrong name], excuse me, [correct name]” or “[wrong pronoun], I’m sorry [correct pronoun]”
if you accidentally mess up someone’s pronouns, do not call attention to it by falling over yourself to apologize.
conversely, do not just move on and hope they didn’t notice. they definitely noticed. not correcting yourself is offensive, and pretending that you didn’t mess up is a form of gaslighting.
if you feel like going the extra mile, apologize the next time you’re alone with them, without excuses. say “I’m sorry that I misgendered you” or “I’m sorry called you the wrong name.”
do not say “it’s so hard, and i keep forgetting! I’m so bad!” trans people hear this over and over, and the message is that they should apologize for being who they are.
if someone close to you has changed their name and/or pronouns, and you’re having a difficult time with it, maybe you should practice at home.
this whole otherkin thing is legitimately making me upset. You can’t just go around calling yourself whatever you please because it’s demeaning to people who actually like to identify as something other than the norm. At first, it was transgender that was the weird thing and everyone thought they were freaks. While i’m not a trans* individual myself, I understand how someone could want to be in a separate body with different working parts or a different appearance, sexuality, etc. People are often uncomfortable in the skin they’re in, and sometimes it’s so severe that they want to legitimately change their body because of it.
You fully admit you’re not trans yourself, but you go on speaking for trans people and how otherkin are bad.
I’m trans. I’m also otherkin. Most of my friends are trans and otherkin as well.
It’s funny that you mention being uncomfortable with bodies. I am uncomfortable. I’m probably going to seek body mods because of it.
But the important thing is: if you’re not trans, to assume to speak for trans people. You want to defend trans people? Don’t speak over us.
As for otherkin: they’re not just teenagers. Otherkin crosses age ranges, gender ranges, and race. My identity is what it is, it’s something I’ve wrestled with, and my existence does not affect the legitimacy of trans people. We don’t take up space because no one will give us any. We’re not considered. What we have we gave ourselves. The fact that so many would consider me delusional is a large part of the reason I don’t involve myself in trans activism honestly.
There’s more I want to say, but basically this picture:
Okay so I usually don’t do this kind of thing but we’re starting to get down to the deadline and I need all the help I can get.
Me and girlfriend Amber have had our housing situation change quite suddenly and we need to move to a new place for February!
We’re seeking a room to rent in the Minneapolis/St. Paul area that’s LGBT friendly (and preferably 420 friendly as well). We’re a quiet, tidy, easy-going transgender couple - both employed full time and own our own vehicles. We’re looking for a safe, welcoming environment.
Please send me or Amber an ask if you have any questions/concerns. Even if you’re in the area and you can only ask around your friends, your help is greatly appreciated!