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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.
My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.
I am: 27 years old, a feminist, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.
The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.
My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (FAAB trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), dyadic, monogamous.
My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Gender-fluid, fat, gray-a, neuroatypical, and gay.
I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, Dermatophagia, and Dermatillomania.
I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.
if you categorically are “not attracted to trans people” you’re a transphobe. i will reconsider my position on this if you can name a single unifying quality that all trans people share that is not just “being trans” and describe to me how exactly it disqualifies us from being considered attractive by the majority of cis people. your argument cannot boil down to “i think trans people are gross on some fundamental level” and you must explain to me why you think it’s coincidental to you being socialized to think trans people are sexually repulsive. go
attraction goes far beyond a pseudo-intellectual analysis
taste is subjective
taste is subjective. taste exists in a vacuum which is not influenced by the society in which it exists. we all emerged from the womb as fully formed adults with our tastes frozen in fucking carbonite. taste transcends the human experience. taste is absolute and we are all merely specks of dust compelled by its divine gravity
OMG I love you for this response.
It is. And that isn’t a bad thing.
Because as a lot of (trans exclusionary) radical feminists don’t understand, social constructs are not nonexistent. They aren’t inherently nonfunctional or inherently unreal. They aren’t nonconcrete and they aren’t divorced from having an effect on lived experiences and lived realities. Nor are they illusions. To think so is to fundamentally not understand what a social construct is.
For more examples, radical feminism is a social construct. The patriarchy is a social construct. Money is a social construct. Barter systems are a social construct. The internet is a social construct. Art is a social construct. Language is a social construct. All of these are social constructs.
So being a social construct really only tells you that something arose from society creating it. Plenty of concrete, high effect, extremely relevant and non illusionary things were created by society and arose from that. Science and the empirical method are social constructs, something terfs depend on quite a bit to hurt trans people (women the most of all).
So sex is a social construct and that doesn’t detract from it. So what does?
Well it’s a really bad social construct.
You see some socially constructed things are made really poorly. Perhaps they’re influenced by truly evil power dynamics and reify damaging power structures. Perhaps they’re arbitrary and aren’t based on very sound logic or reasoning. Perhaps they’re simply harmful in general or push inaccurate comprehensions of phenomena.
Dimorphic sex theory (which is what sex is used for as a shorthand) was created by biology (another social construct, a branch of the philosophical construct known as empirical science dedicated to describing the complex, self perpetuating, homostasis maintaining chemical systems we have labeled as life, ourselves included) to try to describe certain kinds of variation among living things that engage in reproduction that shares genes together and allows for a better survival rate (and faster evolution) by diversifying gene profiles.
It’s considered the primary alternative to asexual reproduction, most notable examples being binary fission, the method wherein bacteria create essentially clones of each other.
Although even this is a flawed understanding as many bacteria actually have methods of sharing genetic material and diversifying their profiles without being polymorphic (plasmid sharing) or with the barest minimum polymorphic aspects, for instance the + and - strains in certain algae species being the only differentiation present (and not markable as male or female based on current sex theory)
Now I know a lot of cis people haven’t gotten past the basics of biology, oversimplifications abounding, so I’ve already gone over a lot of people’s heads with this. But as you get into the heavier stuff, you find that things really don’t fit the basic oversimplifications you see in high school.
And in fact, a lot of the theoretical stuff doesn’t jibe well with sexual dimorphism at all.
In humans there are four zones of sexual “dimorphism”
Physical trait based
Physical trait based is the most absolutely flawed and arbitrary of the set and also happens to be the main one that terfs, conservative non feminists and general all around ignorant cis people depend on for their claims.
Physical traits vary so severely among humans that anyone who clinches onto breast development, body shape, hair presence or lack as a sign of female or male really shouldn’t even bother talking. So we’ll settle on talking about genitalia and reproductive systems, since those are the least absurd of the set of flawed bases for sexual dimorphism.
Reproductive systems also are prone to a lot of variation (enlarged clitorises, micropenises, internalized testicles, vaginal agensis, partial formation of a vulva, even full on mixture of aspects) and generally the cis people who cling to this type of sex dimorphic theory end up shitting all over intersex people and boosting the oppression they face (nonconsensual surgery, mistreatment, body policing, forced assignment based on arbitrary bullshit analysis of physical traits) by referring to these variations as “defects” and “deviations” from a “norm” (it’s actually not super normal to fully fit all the arbitrary markers of being purely male or female, variation in the reproductive system is pretty common, it’s just glossed over if no surgery is required to try to fit you into the boxes)
But there’s more flaws. Reproductive systems get modified. Human surgical knowledge has led to a lot of things being taken out of a reproductive system, often for things like cancers or injuries or functionality problem.
Does someone stop being female if you take out their uterus? Ovaries? If an injury permanently damages the function of either one & causes their removal to become necessary? If someone’s just sick of periods and isn’t interested in giving birth and has a hysterectomy? Not female anymore? Technically yes. By the physical traits system, they would stop being female.
Similar situation with the loss of testicles through injury or surgery. Orchiectomies are had by cis people, does that person stop being male? Absolutely, based on the arbitrary sex dimorphic system that TERFs and conservatives favor. A scientist would say, “technically yes” but since you’re depending on technicalities in the first place, who are you to dismiss that yes?
It’s quite simply transphobia.
And as you can see not a very good description of bodies in general. It leads to a lot of medical problems based on assumptions of what male and female means and esp causes medical problems for trans people, who’s bodies often get substantially modified.
Hormonal is based on hormone functuations and levels and is almost never used by the transphobes so I won’t even address it.
Gamete based is set by the size of gametes, if you don’t have gametes, you aren’t male or female and the transphobes have the sense to avoid that one too. So we’ll be moving on from there.
Up next. Chromosomes.
Chromosomes are generally the fallback for TERFs and conservatives when the physical traits system of sex fails. Got your uterus out? Well you have XX so still female.
Except it doesn’t work like that. XX and XY are triggers for developmental paths. Not to mention the fact that there’s a lot of other chromosomal setups beyond the two, the fact is, all they are is triggers and storage for various genes and may or may not express.
Hormonal exposure and a host of other environmental factors can change what genes trigger what paths (there’s actually a switch further down the genetic line that can override your XX or XY presence for your path as well, it does so flawlessly and often isn’t easily detected). We’ve already discussed how the paths don’t often fit perfectly the idea of what XX and XY start off anyways but you can get the complete opposite. cisgender XX males and cisgender XY females do exist and constructing them as defects merely adds to their persecution without meaningfully dealing with the descriptive flaws in sex dimorphism theory.
Then of course, you have people (like TERFs) attempting to treat chromosomes as being sociologically relevant even though the mass majority of people don’t actually know what their chromosomes are.
That’s right, karyotyping is expensive and isn’t a standard operating procedure at birth. If you don’t even know for sure what your X’s and Y’s are doing, how can that be relevant to physicality, how can that affect how you’re treated in a sociological sense and how can you possibly depend on that as a fallback for determining sex?
The crux of the wrongness of sex dimorphic theory is, however, it’s origins. It was created along the same lines as much of early biology’s theories were created as they connected to humans. To oppress. To crush out difference and to crush down classes that needed to be dominated.
Sex dimorphic theory arose from anti intersex bigotry, misogyny and a latent form of cissexism based more around destroying gender variation (and highly related to a latent form of homophobia as gender variation and sexual partner variation were very closely linked in a lot of places).
It is used to encourage and empower all of those bigotries and currently used to harm not just trans people but dyadic cis women, queer folks, intersex folks and quite a large number of other folks.
So sex is a bad social construct and it should be done away with and replaced. If you even come close to calling yourself a feminist, you should already know this.
if you seriously cannot tell the different between “i hate the group that i am oppressing” and “i hate the group that is oppressing me” you need to sit down and shut up
"i hate trans people" is not the same as "i hate cis people"
"i hate a group of people so i’m going to kill, rape, judge, and oppress them" is not the same as "wow, i hate the group that continues to kill, rape, judge, and oppress me and people like me"
- Thinks that OCD is “cool” and “quirky” (Meanwhile, she is being proclaimed some sort of hero of mental health for her work in Silver Linings Playbook. She is not my hero)
- Talks about how her female cat has such a masculine energy that she decided to rename it Chaz Bono: “I’ve never met a cat where you assume first that it’s a boy. Because normally dogs are boys and cats are girls. But she has such a masculine energy that everybody always says ‘he’ and for the first week I thought it was a boy. I named her Oliver, she had a collar with Oliver. And like “boy, boy, boy.” And everyone’s like, “what’s his name?” And that’s just weird for a cat. So we call her Chaz Bono.”
- Describes her character Katniss Everdeen as “strong, like a male hero with a vagina” (because she thinks female heros can’t be strong, or that men can’t have vaginas)
- "In Hollywood, I’m obese. I’m considered a fat actress. I eat like a caveman. I’ll be the only actress who doesn’t have anorexia rumors”
- Responded to backlash against her being cast in the Hunger Games due to whitewashing by saying “ ”The cool thing about Katniss is that every fan has such a personal relationship with her, and they understand and know her in a singular way. I’m a massive fan too, so I get it.”” and not actually addressing the whitewashing
- She made fun of Quvenzhané Wallis’s name
- Cultural appropriation with fake dreds
- This isn’t strictly her fault, but remember when she give a photographer the finger at the Oscars, and everyone thought it was cute and edgy and quirky and hilarious? But when MIA did it at the Super Bowl, people said it was "obscene", "completely inappropriate and "very disappointing". It’s no coincidence that people thought it was cute when a white woman did it, but disgusting when a WOC did it. It’s just racism.
- On being a tomboy as a kid: "I was so d**e-y."
- That time she rubbed her butt all over a sacred rock formation in Hawaii because who cares about respecting Native cultures when you have an itch?
- When told that her X-Men character Mystique was originally written as bisexual “No! That’s the first time I’ve heard that. She has kids, she has night crawlers, and she sleeps with Magneto! Unless I’m completely wrong, I mean, she is 100 years old, she definitely had time for a lesbian phase.” You know, because bisexual women don’t ever sleep with men or have children. Also, bisexuality is not a ‘lesbian phase’. It’s a legitimate sexuality.
- "I’m excited to be seen as sexy - but not slutty."
- “Don’t worry about the bitches — that could be a good motto, because you come across people like that throughout your life”
- “I’m just so sick of these young girls with diets. I remember when I was 13 and it was cool to pretend to have an eating disorder because there were rumors that Lindsay Lohan and Nicole Richie were anorexic. I thought it was crazy. I went home and told my mom, ‘Nobody’s eating bread - I just had to finish everyone’s burgers.’”
- “I knew that if I was going to be naked in front of the world, I wanted to look like a woman and not a prepubescent 13-year-old boy”
- Quote from her SNL episode “I might dump my boyfriend because I’m thinking about being bi. Everyone in New York is bi because they’re in such a rush. They’re like ‘I’m a hurry, let’s do this. Whatever. I actually heard someone say that in New York once. I’ve been there two or three times”
- “I just wrote an e-mail to my managers that said ‘no more white trash with too much responsibility’ roles for awhile”
- “Before I get the script I ask, “Does she like the forest? Does she have younger siblings? White trash?”
- In an interview with Zach Galifianakis, she asked, “Isn’t [the hunger games] your life story?” to allude to the fact that he is fat. (This was scripted by Galifianakis himself)
- When asked about her childhood “[It] was scary, sweary and loud, where everyone has a bit of a drinking problem and everyone screams at each other, but it was real fun.”
- “Oh, I can’t stand shy people. Like, make it up already. Ask about the weather, don’t stare at your plate and make me feel like I’m making you uncomfortable!”
Give this a read.
Should give you an idea.
Nope, I think that people who are fucking 100% unapologetic or fauxapologetic about their fuckups are forever tainted.
Fucking up doesn’t make you shit forever in my eyes, having 0 goddamn accountability and continuing to defend thoroughly fucking evil viewpoints that actually get people fucking killed does.
If you’re a radscum who defends bathroom panic and pushing trans women out of all womenly resources and you haven’t walked away from that shit and apologized to the fucking women you’ve harmed, you’re scum.
If you said some stupid comment about bathroom panic and apologized and fucking fixed it when you realized that people don’t see each other’s genitals in bathrooms and cis people existing near trans people is goddamn triggering to trans people, I can live with people reblogging you
Seriously, I think a lot of people just do not get the difference here. It’s not about making mistakes, everyone does that. It’s about people who just refuse to acknowledge the humanity of other people, and are willing to put some people’s feelings above other people’s lives.
It’s the difference between kicking someone in the face, apologizing, and not kicking them anymore, and someone who screams “NO I DIDN’T!!!” and just keeps fucking kicking them.
Also: the words “opinion” and “issue” on the part of the asker are being really misused here. Try “violence”, “harm”, or “human lives”.
Like, why the fuck would I care what (for example) someone who thinks it’s okay to kill me thinks about ANYTHING no matter how trivial or unrelated??? Because for the record I do not.
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what. the. fuck. tumblr.
This needs more notes.
Wow that’s weird as fuck with the ghost notes.
But anyways I’ll preface by saying it is mostly straight cis men who are into futa.
What I’ve noticed that is kinda sad is that these men are much much more likely to refer to a fictional futa character with she/her pronouns than they ever would with a trans girl in real life (or in fiction).
It’s ‘funny’ watching these guys vehemently defend the womanhood of the futa character because she has a vulva as well. When in reality a lot of it just comes down to really poor sexual insecurity. Cis people in general don’t know how to handle people they are attracted who have different parts than what they were expecting.
Literally they’ll either get really defense, backtrack, or become violent.
Oh and god forbid something is tagged futa but the character doesn’t have a vulva and/or is referred to in the doujin as a girl with she/her pronouns and is pretty much a trans girl. The abject rage is something to behold.
Hey in case you missed it do not support story war, the creator, brad o’farrell, posted this disgustingly transphobic tumblr post calling trans people literally subhuman and only deleted it recently when it was in danger of shaming him
here’s what he said about it today. note that he seems to think people who are angry about it are “trolling” him and calls the first post “out of context”, as if there is any context for saying that trans people have no souls